Thanks a lot, Jill! It was a bit challenging to stay away from sentimentality, and still make the story feel real. I now know for a fact that healing can work like that, if only we, or our coaches, got the revelation of the right ritual. I find it so interesting that it echoes your own thoughts about it. I’ve noticed this happening between the two of us, actually; you also wrote a few times about things that I was just writing, or thinking about :)
Zoe, I've been actually thinking a lot about the aspect of time and space and how we use it sometimes to create separation, objectivity and healing. For those reasons and more, this piece spoke to me. I think that gaining physical space does help gain distance in our minds.
Your story was very well done and felt very 2023. "You were a ghost in my phone." The lack of face-to-face physicality, the "lover without a face," all felt very sad and very real in our culture today. Well done!
Sometimes a goodbye means losing balance. Finding back a form of balance depends on the form of that good bye. And then, balance is actually a reconciliation with one's own emotional split. I am speaking, obviously, from a purely subjective point of view. Nothing is objective for me in a good bye or departure. Regardless of its form.
Exactly. That's why we need, when the goodbye touches us too deep, an equally subjective way of "feeling", not just intellectually deciding, the goodbye. I'm talking more about the letting go that must accompany a goodbye that is hurting, that reconciliation you mention, too. Thanks for reading, Mioara!
A great read, Zoe! It reminds me of something a work colleague told me once, after I shared that I was an "Army brat", growing up with military parents who moved house every year or 2.
"Ah, military parents", she said. "Their children learn how to say goodbye at a very early age."
I had never thought about that. She was absolutely right.
Thanks a lot, Jill! It was a bit challenging to stay away from sentimentality, and still make the story feel real. I now know for a fact that healing can work like that, if only we, or our coaches, got the revelation of the right ritual. I find it so interesting that it echoes your own thoughts about it. I’ve noticed this happening between the two of us, actually; you also wrote a few times about things that I was just writing, or thinking about :)
Zoe, I've been actually thinking a lot about the aspect of time and space and how we use it sometimes to create separation, objectivity and healing. For those reasons and more, this piece spoke to me. I think that gaining physical space does help gain distance in our minds.
Your story was very well done and felt very 2023. "You were a ghost in my phone." The lack of face-to-face physicality, the "lover without a face," all felt very sad and very real in our culture today. Well done!
Sometimes a goodbye means losing balance. Finding back a form of balance depends on the form of that good bye. And then, balance is actually a reconciliation with one's own emotional split. I am speaking, obviously, from a purely subjective point of view. Nothing is objective for me in a good bye or departure. Regardless of its form.
Exactly. That's why we need, when the goodbye touches us too deep, an equally subjective way of "feeling", not just intellectually deciding, the goodbye. I'm talking more about the letting go that must accompany a goodbye that is hurting, that reconciliation you mention, too. Thanks for reading, Mioara!
A great read, Zoe! It reminds me of something a work colleague told me once, after I shared that I was an "Army brat", growing up with military parents who moved house every year or 2.
"Ah, military parents", she said. "Their children learn how to say goodbye at a very early age."
I had never thought about that. She was absolutely right.
So, these children get to walk away... Thanks for your comment, Lorraine!